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ABC of Happiness
Happiness is a subjective feeling. So, you determine happiness by your preconceived views and
opinions of what should happen or not, by the incidence of an event. You are guided by your
thinking, rather than occurrence of the event.
This is the main determinant of people locating and identifying happy situations everywhere.
In simple language, you should accept events as they happen without giving any credence to
pros and cons of the event, its occurrence, implications on future events and so on. Your ideas
about happiness or occurrence of events governing your happiness levels fall within certain
segments. These segments define your philosophy and beliefs on life.
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Such a clear proposition does not engulf you in different negative emotions like fear, anger, and
depression or shame. They, therefore, do not preclude the presence of your greatest positive
emotion - happiness.
You should proceed by stressing on the ‘It could be better’ factor rather than ‘It should’ factor.
The first proposition highlights your compromising and rational attitude, while the second tends
directly to anger, a negative feeling pulling you away from happiness.
Feelings of shame can arise if you are unable to perform or reach accepted achievement levels
in society. This could be about anything like your smartness, reputation, family background, and
similar facts.
Shame is self-disapproval or criticism for not being able to attain accepted norms. Accept such
incidents as occurrences in life and look ahead to overcome obstacles on your way to achieving
happiness.
Dwelling on past mistakes is not the road to happiness. You must learn to forgive yourself for
mistakes and learn from them as a lesson in life. Punishing yourself over and over for mistakes is
painful and will hinder future attempts at finding happiness.
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Depression arises from irrational thinking. It is also a culmination of all
negative emotions, leading to lack of self-confidence. The underlying
cure for depression lies within you. You have to love yourself first to be
able to love and receive love from all. This opens doors to your
happiness and success.
Fear is worry about your ability. You should be brave enough to allay
your fears and confront them. Do not lie low and accept everything.
Instead, strive to do beyond your expectations. This focus is more likely
to bring you happiness.
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